tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post3478825554736082835..comments2023-08-10T08:24:08.460-06:00Comments on Mama Needs Coffee: Why I Don't Believe in Parenting Styles Jennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07923751596148085363noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-36750914503061431892015-02-04T12:14:37.645-07:002015-02-04T12:14:37.645-07:00This was so perfect. Thanks for the brevity.This was so perfect. Thanks for the brevity.TheRoznowskishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13348273197517047964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-52671089489540122452015-02-02T16:49:47.750-07:002015-02-02T16:49:47.750-07:00I definitely got the big picture point and totally...I definitely got the big picture point and totally agree with all the 'mommy war' hot topics as none of my business what you. But whether you give a newborn a pacifier or not isn't in the same category as vaccinating your kid. I guess I just couldn't let that one slide and just mingle in with the rest of these benign topics especially as I'm sitting in the middle of a Arizona measles outbreak with a 4mon who has no defense against it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10687733898634452536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-26257039872925571172015-02-02T12:47:26.884-07:002015-02-02T12:47:26.884-07:00YES! I was always on guard when feeding my son a ...YES! I was always on guard when feeding my son a bottle in public, especially if I was mixing up formula. I was just waiting on some evil look so I could scream "He's adopted! I don't have any other option!". Parenting needs a lot less competition and staying out of other people's business these days. As long as your kid and is healthy (relatively speaking), safe, happy (relatively speaking), you must be doing it right.dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09814404711133579948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-88568301319907587102015-02-02T07:59:01.023-07:002015-02-02T07:59:01.023-07:00Yes, I agree wholeheartedly. The main struggle I ...Yes, I agree wholeheartedly. The main struggle I have right now regards the sort of mental stimulation I want for my kids. I know my Mom would be happy in seventh heaven if we played cheesy Christian Bible kid songs 24/7 and probably judges me for not teaching more of those songs to my kids, but since we became Catholic I don't feel as much pressure to do that as I used to. Props to you for letting go of others' judgment and rolling with your instincts. I think you're right on, and no, we shouldn't compete or judge each other.Tacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10147786045725665490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-5054128972229930502015-02-02T07:14:13.945-07:002015-02-02T07:14:13.945-07:00thank you! parenting is not a competition!thank you! parenting is not a competition!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-22257618110433401552015-02-01T11:16:15.288-07:002015-02-01T11:16:15.288-07:00I think you guys may have both missed the main the...I think you guys may have both missed the main thesis of the piece...<br /><br />I'm very sorry you had the experience of worry over your child's health. It's always an awful burden as a mother. I do challenge the logic that parents who choose not to vaccinate either partially or entirely are doing so out of selfishness or malice towards your child. Obviously we are all, as parents, trying to do what is in the best interest of the child: first our own and then everyone else's.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923751596148085363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-23075662025274008782015-02-01T10:46:48.259-07:002015-02-01T10:46:48.259-07:00! Yes! I sit here with a little baby I was miserab...! Yes! I sit here with a little baby I was miserable and waiting for a diagnosis of measles. It is a selfish choice and unless your child is allergic or has a compromised immune system you are endangering everyone. We should all be doing our part to protect those who don't have the option.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02249959578429625334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-82153159869125775962015-02-01T03:42:56.732-07:002015-02-01T03:42:56.732-07:00My doc is making me write a birth plan. I am fairl...My doc is making me write a birth plan. I am fairly certain I will just copy down, "I'd like my epidural placed now-ish, and that I didn't want to feel anything other than joy for the next 12 hours."Jenna@CallHerHappyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05587606918705423050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-37198786749847327512015-01-31T19:51:18.641-07:002015-01-31T19:51:18.641-07:00Sorry but vaccinating is not a parenting style, it...Sorry but vaccinating is not a parenting style, it is a national health risk. To expose the most vulnerable population among us to senseless suffering seems like a moral issue to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10687733898634452536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-43425867967672735172015-01-31T14:50:11.117-07:002015-01-31T14:50:11.117-07:00Well said and thank you for being a sane, reasonab...Well said and thank you for being a sane, reasonable person! My husband and I are wanting a baby, but I have been reading so many things online, I am almost intimidated by how all these mommies are now. I had my first (and so far only) 13 years ago (WITH an epidural after 14 hours of back labor) when I was just a teen myself, and I did what I had to in order for us to survive, so I didn't really know or care about anybody else. Having a baby as an actual adult has almost seemed scarier. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790444120314654816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-36062970248959492332015-01-31T12:51:47.653-07:002015-01-31T12:51:47.653-07:00Oh it does happen...sorry :) I was just thinking o...Oh it does happen...sorry :) I was just thinking of my midwife and doula.they made it seem that if I put a soother in my babies mouth...breastfeeding would be ruined 4ever!!! Glad you got through it! :)Loveisneverdefeatedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00054362615983207023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-64799333355614367852015-01-31T09:50:46.316-07:002015-01-31T09:50:46.316-07:00I completely agree! Though I think there's a g...I completely agree! Though I think there's a good argument that choosing not to vaccinate, apart from the very few morally-questionable vaccines for which an alternative isn't available, may really be a moral issue at least on par with exposing other people's children to harmful media. After all, that choice IS one you make for the most vulnerable members of your community--people who legitimately can't vaccinate and rely on the collective disease-resistance of the community around them.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787892622804373968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-71400615427665097642015-01-31T07:10:01.714-07:002015-01-31T07:10:01.714-07:00So great!So great!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03695179104841318390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-67131516362068902822015-01-31T05:08:45.121-07:002015-01-31T05:08:45.121-07:00I dealt with 8 weeks of horrific nipple confusion,... I dealt with 8 weeks of horrific nipple confusion, but I *do* think it's rare, at least!Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05625035254559197934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-17918647275835041702015-01-30T22:04:37.655-07:002015-01-30T22:04:37.655-07:00Love it!! Really lovingly said. Well done.Love it!! Really lovingly said. Well done.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06705206806242555069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-37476912204393007672015-01-30T21:54:01.242-07:002015-01-30T21:54:01.242-07:00You nailed it.You nailed it.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02303122465752586062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-86843223595999634642015-01-30T21:02:28.563-07:002015-01-30T21:02:28.563-07:00Amen, sister!! One of your best posts.Amen, sister!! One of your best posts.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02999838147173390906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-24658666556026980832015-01-30T20:57:59.056-07:002015-01-30T20:57:59.056-07:00Amen!!! Saving this post to come back to later. :-...Amen!!! Saving this post to come back to later. :-)Michele Chronisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05328455640818231923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-89112124535799203572015-01-30T20:57:53.046-07:002015-01-30T20:57:53.046-07:00Amen!!! Saving this post to come back to later. :-...Amen!!! Saving this post to come back to later. :-)Michele Chronisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05328455640818231923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-36363898201703012112015-01-30T18:54:48.013-07:002015-01-30T18:54:48.013-07:00Omg...that Italian formula is seriously frightenin...Omg...that Italian formula is seriously frightening. I didn't buy ANY dairy in Italy because it was just so confusing, I can't even imagine trying to get formula!!<br /><br />And yes, it took me 3 natural births to realize it is just NOT for me. And I even tried to get one at the last birth. Damn doula. She wouldn't let me ask the nurse or my husband for one. amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08042196441402705907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-21610153822538017042015-01-30T18:42:43.470-07:002015-01-30T18:42:43.470-07:00I was thinking Amen repeatedly as I finished each ...I was thinking Amen repeatedly as I finished each paragraph of your post! I've found myself wanting to shout "these aren't moral issues" about everything from attachment parenting to baby feeding in the last couple of weeks (at my computer of course...). <br /><br />Parenting can be so humbling! Whenever I think I have something figured out I have a kid who flips the notions that I had on it's head!Cammie Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-69062684315402317402015-01-30T17:32:23.736-07:002015-01-30T17:32:23.736-07:00AMEN!!!!!! AMEN!!!!!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17718669992489223382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-22606245887807236452015-01-30T17:27:34.701-07:002015-01-30T17:27:34.701-07:00Yes! Wonderful post. And I laughed so hard when I...Yes! Wonderful post. And I laughed so hard when I read your account of the italian "formula" that my 7.5 month old I'm nursing to sleep stopped nursing, looked up at me, and laughed too.Anne Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01229102446180148782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-76081390872797723222015-01-30T16:54:51.687-07:002015-01-30T16:54:51.687-07:00Perfect description, Molly.Perfect description, Molly.Katrina Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03149194969923419676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1669762298855511295.post-36146863488420048172015-01-30T16:54:25.834-07:002015-01-30T16:54:25.834-07:00Girl, you're gooooood.Girl, you're gooooood. Katrina Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03149194969923419676noreply@blogger.com